“我不管，反正新闻发布会上你和我说好了在一起的，现在你不能反悔！”铭梓简直是要发疯了，揪着这个话题不放，非要和花彦在一起。
众多媒体面前，花彦也不好乱说话，不礼貌和爆粗口更是不可以说，要不然被抓包了那可就完了。
“嗯……那你想怎么样？”花彦无语的问铭梓。
铭梓的两个眼珠子瞪得大大的，眼球中掺杂着红血丝，眼底下也是淤青一片：“你今天要么和媒体说清楚没有和叶书在一起要结婚，要不然就直接宣布我们的关系没有作废！”
花彦捂脸不知所措，叶书仗着身高的优势，搂住了花彦的肩膀，说：“你想要怎样我不管，我只知道你不可能拆散我和我未婚妻的婚事。她现在是为了顾忌你的心情才和你客气说话，但是我可不用！”
“叶总裁狂拽酷霸叼啊！”
“标准男友力啊！！我也想要一个这样的老公！”
“乱说什么的！人家还没结婚呢！趁着先看快点多看两眼！！”
“算了……只不过……真的实在是太帅了！我要给他们俩单独写一篇报告！就是赞扬他们俩的爱情！”
“那铭梓怎么办？她也算是半个花彦的前任吧？”
“谁说的！他们俩明明就没有半毛钱关系！”
围观的群众和记者们默默地看着他们俩发糖……要被腻死了……
铭梓还是红着眼圈，但是给了花彦一封信，花彦打开一看，全都是英文字母：ThePositiveMeaningsofLove
We'dliketosharesomeofthepositivemeaningslovehasforus.
LovemeansthatIknowthepersonIlove.I'mawareofthemanysidesoftheotherperson—notjustthebeautifulsidebutalsothelimitations,inconsistenciesandfaults.Ihaveanawarenessoftheother'sfeelingsandthoughts,andIexperiencesomethingofthecoreofthatperson.Icanpenetratesocialmasksandrolesandseetheotherpersononadeeperlevel.
LovemeansthatIcareaboutthewelfareofthepersonIlove.Totheextentthatitisgenuine,mycaringisnotpossessive,nordoesitholdtheotherpersonback.Onthecontrary,mycaringfreesbothofus.IfIcareaboutyou,I'mconcernedaboutyourgrowth,andIhopeyouwillbecomeallthatyoucanbecome.Consequently,Idon'tputupobstaclestowhatyoudothatenhancesyouasaperson,eventhoughitmayresultinmydiscomfortattimes.
LovemeanshavingrespectforthedignityofthepersonIlove.IfIloveyou,Icanseeyouasaseparateperson,withyourownvaluesandthoughtsandfeelings,andIdonotinsistthatyousurrenderyouridentitytomatchanimageofwhatIexpectyoutobeforme.Icanallowandencourageyoutostandaloneandtobewhoyouare,andIavoidtreatingyouasanobjectorusingyouprimarilytosatisfymyownneeds.
LovemeanshavingaresponsibilitytowardthepersonIlove.IfIloveyou,Irespondtomostofyourmajorneedsasaperson.Thisresponsibilitydoesnotincludemydoingforyouwhatyouarecapableofdoingforyourself;nordoesitmeanthatIrunyourlifeforyou.ItdoesmeanacknowledgingthatwhatIamandwhatIdoaffectsyou,sothatIamdirectlyinvolvedinyourhappinessandyoursuffering.Aloverdoeshavethecapacitytohurtorignorethelovedone,andinthissenseweseethatloveinvolvesanacceptanceofsomeresponsibilityfortheimpactmywayofbeinghasonyou.
LovemeansmakingacommitmenttothepersonIlove.Thiscommitmentdoesnotmeansurrenderingourtotalselvestoeachother;nordoesitimplythattherelationshipisnecessarilypermanent.Itdoesinvolveawillingnesstostaywitheachotherintimesofpain,struggle,anddespair,aswellasintimesofcalmandenjoyment.
LovemeanstrustingthepersonIlove.IfIloveyou,Itrustthatyouwillacceptmycaringandmyloveandthatyouwon'tdeliberatelyhurtme.Itrustthatyouwillfindmeattractive,andthatyouwon'tabandonme;Itrustthemutualnatureofourlove.Ifwetrusteachother,wearewillingtobeopentoeachotherandrevealourtrueselves.
Lovecantolerateimperfection.InaloverelationshiptherearetimeswhenIambored,timeswhenImayfeellikegivingup,timesofrealstrain,andtimesIfeelIcan'tmoveforward.Authenticlovedoesnotimplyenduringhappiness.Icanstayduringroughtimes,however,becauseIcanrememberwhatwehadtogetherinthepast,andIcanpicturewhatwewillhavetogetherinourfutureifwecareenoughtofaceourproblemsandworkthemthrough.Weagreewiththeideathatloveisaspiritthatchangeslife.Loveisawayoflifethatiscreativeandthattransforms.However,loveisnotreservedforaperfectworld.Loveismeantforourimperfectworldwherethingsgowrong.Loveismeanttobeaspiritthatworksinpainfulsituations.Loveismeanttobringmeaningintolifewherenonsenseappearstorule.Inotherwords,lovecomesintoanimperfectworldtomakeitpossibletolive.
Loveisopen.IfIloveyou,Iencourageyoutoreachoutanddevelopotherrelationships.Althoughourloveforeachotherandourcommitmenttoeachothermightprohibitcertainactionsonourparts,wearenottotallyandexclusivelymarriedtoeachother.Itisafalselovethatcementsonepersontoanotherinsuchawaythatheorsheisnotgivenroomtogrow.
Loveisselfish.IcanonlyloveyouifIgenuinelylove,value,appreciate,andrespectmyself.IfIamempty,thenallIcangiveyouismyemptiness.IfIfeelthatI'mcompleteandworthwhileinmyself,thenI'mabletogivetoyououtofmyfullness.Oneofthebestwaysformetogiveyouloveisbyfullyenjoyingmyselfwithyou.
Loveinvolvesseeingthepotentialwithinthepersonwelove.Inmyloveforanother,Iviewherorhimasthepersonsheorhecanbecome,whilestillacceptingwhoandwhatthepersonisnow.Bytakingpeopleastheyare,wemakethemworse,butbytreatingthemasiftheyalreadywerewhattheyoughttobe,wehelpmakethembetter.
Tosumitup,matureloveisunionundertheconditionofpreservingone'sindividuality.Inlove,twobeingsbecomeoneandyetremaintwo.
小花花，这就是我想对你说的话……
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